Early in May I went to a 21st birthday party, at which I could count the people I knew on one hand. Most of them were from church, so I had to hold my tongue a bit at comments like
“I heard the band that played on Friday was obscure…way out there…”
Me: “Do you mean open-minded?”
Answer: “being gay is not open-minded”
Ahh I see, so GAY = OBSCURE & WAY OUT THERE.
Way to go, Jesus freak.
About two weeks later, I went to a debate on homosexual parenting which was organised by a gay rights organisation and which was held in a chapel on campus. I don’t think that was done spitefully. And it was interesting seeing about a dozen couples walk into the house of a spiritual family who claims to love them but hates their sexual preferences, but hates them to such a degree that these preferences actually come to stand for their entire identity, so that instead of being homosexual people they are just homosexuals. I think of it as if, instead of seeing a man, all you see is his penis.
What does this have to do with parenting? In short:
A person who is homosexual is not defined totally and exclusively by their sexuality – they are a person first. Thus what matters if they choose to become a parent is whether their entire identity can financially, emotionally and socially support a child. Not whether they are hetero- or homosexual. A gay parent is a bad parent if they are also financially unstable, emotionally immature, or socially inept. A gay parent is not a bad parent because they love a member of the same sex.
Another very interesting point raised at the debate, was that it shouldn’t be true that two gay parents will by default raise a gay child – because two homosexual parents have raised most of the current gay people we know today! Ha!
I’d like to know other people’s thoughts on this. I certainly do not know much about parenting, or about what effects an increase in homosexual parenting would have on society at large… So share your thoughts please 🙂